Funeral ceremonies

Life is started by some Samskaras (purification ceremony) in Hindu tradition. Starting as from procreation time till death time.Samskaras means religious purificatory ceremonies for sanctifying the body, the mind, the intellect of an individual. Basically at the performance of each samskaras a yajna is performed as the recitation of mantras from the Vedas are equally important. There are generally three steps to follow: pre-performance, actual performance, and post performance of a samskara. Bath and preparation are necessary for the first step, whereas in the second light, fire, prayer and offering are needed. The last step is marked by distribution of food to the guest and relatives and dakshina to the officiating priest.

Here I’ll be talking of funeral ceremony (Antyeshti) which is the greatest single important ritual of the Hindus to whom the value of the next world is higher than that of the present one. It marks an end to physical and existence without bringing his spiritual life too an end. There is a firm belief that there is life after death and it is an account of this that one prays for the departed soul.

It is the first time as grown up I’m experiencing a death in my family. So I don’t know about the do’s and the don’ts. So I asked questions as far as I’ve seen it’s wise to in the appropriate situation. I see all these as being superstitious rather than tradition as my mum says.

Before the funeral ceremony where the body will be buried some systems are observed.  In my case the death occurred two days before the body had to be buried. So waiting for the burial day we had to spend day and night lifelessly.

On the first day the person died near families have to help the members of the dead person to evacuate the house, cover all mirrors and prepare a death-bed for the corpse. Near the death-bed an earthen lamp was lit and some flowers were kept. As we are blood related even we were suppose to observe these superstitious rituals. Here is a list of the do’s and don’ts during death time

Don’ts	Reasons
Not consume milk	Milk is considered as auspicious. Before starting or going for something new, milk based food is given for example curd,  rice pudding
No non veg	Because veneration and prayer has to go be conducted
Should not switch on the stove
No sweeping of the house
No music, no television	Mourners should forget all pleasures

Do’s	Reasons
Wear simple cloth	mourning time

Cremation or burning of the dead body is recognized mode of the disposal of the corpse. It is motivated by a desire to avoid the corpse being devoured by worms and stinks. During the burial day the body had to be taken from the morgue, brought to his home where the purificatory ceremonies like cutting of the nails, shaving of the hair, the body is given a cold bath and wrapped in a new unstitched white sheet of cloth and placed on a mat. Some tulsi leaves are placed on the lips of the dead body.  Then reading of Ramayana or kathaUpanishad is a usual feature. Many superstitious persons believe that too many tears may prevent the onward march of the soul; this is why sacred books are read to comfort the relatives and make them forget their sorrow.

After recitation of prayers the dead body is carried on a bier where again the priest conduct some last prayer where all men and women joins in.  Before the departures some wood stick is touched by everyone, and then they proceed towards the cremation ground. There the corpse is laid on the pyre. A fire is lit by the elder son and has to go round the pyre along with four members of his family. After seven rounds he applies fire to the pyre with the recitation of Vedic verses. The mourners’ then return after the body has been completely burnt to ashes. After cremation water is offered to the dead. Usually women do not go in these processes. (These information need to be confirmed)

Meanwhile mean are at the cremation ground everyone console the females of the dead person. And others prepare for the yajna. Before the yajna the wife of the dead person has to be bathed and purify by widowed women where the former is deprived of this colorful dress, sindoor and mangalsutra. During this process no one was supposed to see except the widowed women. On the other hand all the relatives bath and purify themselves. They then sweep their home; change bed sheet etc, then joins in the prayer. Turning their face towards the south, they call the dead by name and offer a handful of water to him. They repeat in seven times.

Lastly (for the day) all relatives help to cook and offer some food to the dead person. Before consuming food the son and four more married person ( always five people) take a lighten wood, and the food and place it in the entrance. Here again no one except the 5 person should see the system. Then the family members should eat food first then others can eat. it is to be noted that before eating a morsel of each food should be removed.

There are prayers conducted 3 days, 10 days and 40 days after the body has been cremated. Long ago people used to have prayers everyday because at that time their home were made of straw and wood and would usually attract worms and mosquitoes. as a result those prayers were made to purify the home and help to comfort the family members. Now, everyone have concrete houses so less risk of worms and mosquitoes.

 

huMAN MENtality..

Today I’ve been surprised by the way of thinking of some married man, and that is bothering me too much that I had to express myself..

I’m still pondering and wondering how the hell can a married person think about having extramarital affair when they are married! Don’t they have Trust, confidence, respect over their wife or husband!! Don’t they think twice or thrice before doing such an act!! just for the sake of having sex!! Man’s fire is too high!! (philosophical context or simply literal translation)

This is the story of a married young woman with one child of 2 years old and a married young man with two children..  they were having extra marital affair… in other words i called it ADULTERY . It all started when an anonymous guy met an anonymous girl anonymously.. got into contact for 1 day, and the next day they went to make love sleep together..  and over and out.. 

some people told me it is something quite normal for them to cheat upon their companion.. and to be the ’2nd’ one is much better :/

i wonder Why people have such a mentality!

Trust, love,affection, confidence, sincerity looks good in books only now as all these have lost their meaning and their antonyms are ruling.. people are giving more importance to sex, their sexual urges rather than personal, confidential and private  life.. I would not curse such person, I’ll let nature do her job.. Hope justice will prevail some day or another.. I wonder if it will ever be justified :/

Independence celebration..

Mauritius celebrated his 43rd anniversary of independence and 19th anniversary of republic of Mauritius, on the 12th March. As usual the official flag raising ceremony was held at Champ de Mars. The Independence celebration started prior to 12th March. Every educational institute raised their flag one day before, as it is a public holiday.

The celebration will continue on Sunday also. the parade of floats from different ministers and companies will be parading in the north. Starting from Goodlands, then on the way to the longest village in the Indian Ocean, ending at mont Choisy beach.

I HATE RACISM

Mauritian supposement noir, blanc, marron, multicolor, incolor tou maryé piké res ensemble.. c l’image ki zot done tourist! mais au fond ena dimun ki super rascist ou fanatique!! ki so prof, pandit, avocat, ou koi encor, zot ena sa 2-3% rascist r zot! I REALLY HATE this!

I HATE DAMN HATE SUCH PEOPLE!

The law of karma and rebirth..

The law of karma and rebirth states that as you sow so you shall reap… (agree?)

Every effect has its cause.. so do not complain about your present or past state you should be conscious that whoever and whatever you are today is only because of YOU not your friends or parents or neighbor.. accept the fact, learn to live with the bitter reality.. human nature is weird whenever they have good moments they are carefree and during bad days they keep n complaining, which they should not do so..

Do you people think god has do anything with OUR deeds? what WE have sown?

Drawbacks of being females..

I found that being a girl, has many inconveniences compared to man.. and females are interesting creatures to observe as they remain constantly changing

30/31 days in a month.. woman always have to bother about things like:

1. which beauty products to be bought
2. hair dressing, whats the latest hair style, how to comb the hair, for work, wedding or casually
3. skin care, face too oily, to dry
4. hairs removals in face, body, have to shave legs
5. nail trimming, polishing
6. dieting: oh hell have to get rid of this big ass, oh no this stupid fats on the waist
7. should have at least 31 clothes for a months, so as not to repeat the same. p.s girls clothes are more expensive
8. must  have clothes for each function, night dresses, casual, classic, saree, churidar accordingly .. bla bla.. bla bla.. unlike boys, who just have to wear trousers and shirts
9. have to wear bra, even in hot days, just to support them :s
10. should have so many pairs of shoes: jogging, casual, classic, chic, different colors… ah girls only know..
11. have to wear high heels (5-6cm) for so many hours..
12. (stupid) boys not interested with the brains but the outer shell..
13. women are always sought to be fragile!!
14. have to wear ornaments: earing,  chains, blah blah
15. a girl uses a swear= bad girl! huh
16. have less freedom!!
17. are always compared to boys who are considered to be better(though they are not)
18. have to take the name of the husband (crap!!!)
19. have to leave their home, to go to the husband home
20. offers trust, and loyalty easily later
21. a woman can give a loved one everything, trust loyalty, body, respect,soul and even life
22. gossips about others, hate others for nothing
23. fight among woman
24. boobs ache :s
25. irritating pimples (specially on the nose :s)
26. becomes moody, irritating, angers quickly,
27. …
28. welcome menses
29. each place we visit we have to go to the toilet to check :s
30. scared of being ‘scattered’
31. spend money to buy hygienic pads, tampons
32. and if the menses is missed.. congrats pregnancy
33. 9 month full of pain, irritation..
34. labor pains, conceiving pain..ouch
35. take care of the child
36. breastfeeding: have to search for private places to breast-fed!

p.s: girls can be considered as the strongest to be able to bear all these..

Express service..

could not hold myself, wanted to write about “express” service.. not for bus transport but  medical express services..

starting time:9h10, purpose: headache + bellyache + allergy….

9h06 : left home

9h10: reach destination

9h11: give name blabla

9h12: inside:

9h14: already out :s

i said wow, impress super impress with such quick service..

last week i was suffering from mild headache, bellyache and my usual allergy.. but was having severe scratchiness.. had the option to go to private doctors but i got a phobia with doctors in my locality.. i persisted to have a check with doctors in the dispensary..

i took me less than 5 minutes to have a consultation and medicines..

doctor: ki oun gagner?

me: belly ache, some allergy and…. (felt awkward to say more as i wasn’t having attention)

doctor: uhuhh.. ** writing** without even a proper look and check up

me: 0.O

doctor: just gave me the medicine list (not even any explanation about which medicine is it and what is its purpose

wow, what a great experience..  wanted to tell the person, *you`re paid just to prescribe panadol* :s :s i find it and express funny service

Philosopher `s language

According to a philosopher, the language should be such that people must read some sentence twice or thrice to understand..

either a person understand or not! in brief to understand one should twist the tongue

Degree to become mad!

the mixture of Indian philosophy + western philosophy + Greek philosophy + psychology+ sociology= MAD!

My countdown will begin as from next month about the degree of madness!!

i think one should never rejects the opening doors toward learning. A lecturer always says:learn now, later whatever has to happen will happen or the way round! Ive been distracted and forgot it :s

correlated coincidence

COINCIDENCE?? Do coincidence only mean coincidence? does everything that happen is  just mere coincidence. is our evry action correlated with or to something??

How many coincidence are related to each other?? i would say ALL!

Everything has a cause, believe it or not, nothing has come come out of nothing!only through right  knowledge one can discriminate  between the proper and the improper. some philosophers also would agree on this point..

this post was written and published on 17th august 2010, and again the coincidence coincidently happened the next day, and it continued till today (19.08.10). im going to study more (scientifically) about this stupid coincidence things .